Are you constantly making excuses for what doesn't feel
good and what scares you? If so, you are
TRASHtionalizing, that is, twisting the truth rather
than being brave enough to face it. Watch "Reality
Check" as Life Coach and Author Chandra Alexander talks
about her new book, TRASHtionalizations, How to Stop
Believing Your Own Excuses and Have a Real
Relationship).
TRASHtionalization: Being With Someone Is Better Than
Being Alone.
1. There is only one reason to be with someone, anyone -
and that is
because you like the person.
2. Being alone is bittersweet, but the loneliness of
pretending to love
is poison.
3. Being alone when you do not like your own company is
scary.
4. You must be brave to bring real love into your life.
5. When you don't love, choosing to be alone has dignity
and honors
your spirit.
WFLA-TV/NBC "Daytime" -
Once a regular guest on Daytime, Chandra takes live
call-in questions from viewers seeking advice and
insight.
“Chandra Alexander connects with our audience, Reality
-- does -- Work! Our viewers appreciate Chandra's
straight forward, face-the-truth, problem solving
approach to living your life. People are tuning in to
see her, ratings jump when she's on the air.”
Steve De Gregorio
Executive Producer - Daytime/Director & Local
Programming Development WFLA-TV (NBC)
This daily email is an opportunity to stay
connected to what's real and true. Cutting
through to "The Real Truth" is my way of sharing
with you an inner barometer to test the
"realness" of where you are at any moment.
Having a good life is not for the weak at heart.
A cold eye is what's needed to plunge our inner
depths and for that we must be brave. Regardless
of our dysfunction, our ego must be healthy and
strong enough so that we can we be brutally
honest with ourselves. Real bravery is accepting
that the inner journey will include "uncomfortableness"
and anxiety; that there is no way to face our
demons without the willingness to meet them.
There will always be emotional pain when we
finally feel our grief and sadness, and get in
touch with a lifetime of "stuffed feelings", but
once we stop resisting what has always been
there, we experience freedom, and finally know
that suffering is optional. Here's to living in
the present moment - not the past or the future
- Chandra
