Are you constantly making excuses for what doesn't feel
good and what scares you? If so, you are
TRASHtionalizing, that is, twisting the truth rather
than being brave enough to face it.
TRASHtionalization: He said he would call. He must be
busy.
. Recognize that men and women are different. If a man
says he is going to
call, let him.
. Ask yourself - Have you ever not called someone you
wanted to call?
. Do you really believe that Wall Street mover and
shaker cannot get to a
phone?
. Death and the emergency room are the only acceptable
excuses for not
calling when you say you are going to call.
. Do you want to be with a person who says he is going
to do something and
not do it?
WFLA-TV/NBC "Daytime" -
Once a regular guest on Daytime, Chandra takes live
call-in questions from viewers seeking advice and
insight.
“Chandra Alexander connects with our audience, Reality
-- does -- Work! Our viewers appreciate Chandra's
straight forward, face-the-truth, problem solving
approach to living your life. People are tuning in to
see her, ratings jump when she's on the air.”
Steve De Gregorio
Executive Producer - Daytime/Director & Local
Programming Development WFLA-TV (NBC)
This daily email is an opportunity to stay
connected to what's real and true. Cutting
through to "The Real Truth" is my way of sharing
with you an inner barometer to test the
"realness" of where you are at any moment.
Having a good life is not for the weak at heart.
A cold eye is what's needed to plunge our inner
depths and for that we must be brave. Regardless
of our dysfunction, our ego must be healthy and
strong enough so that we can we be brutally
honest with ourselves. Real bravery is accepting
that the inner journey will include "uncomfortableness"
and anxiety; that there is no way to face our
demons without the willingness to meet them.
There will always be emotional pain when we
finally feel our grief and sadness, and get in
touch with a lifetime of "stuffed feelings", but
once we stop resisting what has always been
there, we experience freedom, and finally know
that suffering is optional. Here's to living in
the present moment - not the past or the future
- Chandra
