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Therapy On Demand
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(Let It Happen) is
for the savvy seeker, neophyte, and all those
in-between. Chapter titles such as It is our
fear that creates our bravery, The universe
works if you get out of the way, and Being human
is the key to knowing your divinity, all propose
new ways to look at the same old stuff, with a
twist. Spiritual myths are “de-bunked” as
complicated concepts are stripped to the bare
essentials with clarity, freshness and
reverence. Fifty-two chapters in all…brief and
explicit lessons on living truthfully with a
grounded sense of wonder.
Reality Works is for readers who want their
spirituality straight-up, without the anecodotes
and endless explanations. Combining eastern
wisdom with a hip, contemporary, very American
point of view, it makes readers laugh out loud,
see life with a fresh perspective, sit in the
middle of the floor and welcome their
demons-basically learn how to feel a range of
feelings by first facing the monster of fear and
"We have been so conditioned to want only what
is easy and initially makes us feel good that we
have neglected the soft underbelly, that part of
life that is difficult and makes us
uncomfortable, but in the end has the ability to
connect us to what is real," writes Alexander in
Fifty-two chapters (one for every week in the
year) provide brief but explicit lessons on how
to live with a grounding sense of wonder.
Chapters include "When You Are Confused, Do
Nothing," "Love Grows if You're not in a Coma,"
"I am not Afraid of Things That Scare Me," and
"Men and Women are Different-Enjoy it." From
loneliness to relationships, from learning to
leave things alone to learning to pay attention,
Reality Works offers fifty-two ways to live a
richer, more authentic life. A gem of a book
that can be picked up again and again, each time
meeting the reader in exactly the right place.
Read the first (3) chapters
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Power Statements That Change Your Life.
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great thing about epiphanies is that they are
totally unsolicited; they come about when you
least expect them. You are not on a quest, not
searching tirelessly for answers, but merely
minding your own business, not anticipating any
change, and along comes a mind-blowing insight
that has the potential to rock your world. What
you do with that information is what creates
“What you set up at the beginning
is what you have at the end.”
“You have only one heart; if you
close it to hurt, you also close it to love.”
Power statements bring epiphanies
that have the power to transform your
impressed by too many people Chandra. Your
insights and concise way of putting things is
brilliant and helps so many. I think most of
what you say is worth memorizing, like a
proverb. You have a gift that can keep people
centered in a challenging world.”
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friend, a co-worker, a boss, an ex - We all have
relationships that don't work. This does not
mean that there is something wrong with us, but
rather that we are human; and part of this human
experience is to figure out how to have healthy
relationships - equitable interactions that give
us self- respect and self-esteem. Breaking and
Healing is for everyone, because everyone has
relationship issues - it's just whether or not
we face them. When you don't face your issues,
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The Real Deal is
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rationalizations; a way to take back your power
and know that you can create the life you want.
Love is not something that happens to us – we
make it happen! Only when you are “intimate”
with yourself can you share that intimacy with
another. If you want passion, you must be
passion; if you want love, you must be love.
Sit back, listen and open. Understand it
differently, change what doesn’t work, and get
answers that point you in a new direction.
Remember love is an introspective process and
unless you are willing to journey inward, you
can never connect to the core of who you really
are. Being real is only way to have real
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insightful and riveting talk debunks commonly
held beliefs that keep us stuck both personally
and professionally and teaches us new ways to
look at the same old stuff. Called "Tampa Bay's
own Dr. Phil", Chandra shares with corporate
event planners the same no nonsense reality she
delivers on NBC's DAYTIME "Reality Check".
Integrating a strong business sense with
spirituality and self-actualization, she reveals
how having a good working relationship with your
mind is the foundation of all good business and
all good relationships - the one you have with
your co-worker, the one you have with your boss,
the one you have with your partner, and most
importantly, the one you have with yourself.
Listening to Chandra speak, you will have
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I read your book. I thought I would do so in one
sitting but I needed to digest what I was
reading so it took longer. I've read many books
on spiritual living and consciousness. I'd
always prided myself on my journey and the 6
years I have invested in spirituality. I've read
books which left me euphoric, soaring for days
feeling utterly invincible. It's like drug
addiction, you get a hit until you have to come
down and you go searching for the next one.
Your book was the opposite. Even as I read it, I
was not surprised by the simplicity of it, that
you could distill the essence of a simple truth
into a tiny little chapter. I had moments of
insight which left me joyous, but for the most
part, reading your book has brought me down to
earth with a bang. I'm undone at the seams, as
though everything I thought I knew, the insights
I had arrived at were no more. The Chapter,
"When we are vulnerable, we are protected"
destroyed me. I saw that I had expected my
spirituality to make me special. That the
isolation of the last 6 years, the celibacy, the
getting left behind by my peers would result in
one grand result which would be my reward for
going within so long. The realization that this
belief may in fact have isolated me from the
rest of humanity floored me. I feel grounded,
and not necessarily in a euphoric way. Just
grounded, all over the place, confused, scared.
For perhaps the first time, I'm faced with my
own humanity and it's very sobering. I used to
pride myself on my gut instinct which gave me
the feeling that I was extraordinary in some
way. I felt it since my childhood and it drove
me to aim for an extraordinary life which, in
spite of my best efforts, has not materialized.
I find myself in the gap. I still desire the
career (acting) and the extraordinary
relationship (single, 34 years old) but I no
longer know what will become of these dreams.
I'm terrified that I have isolated myself from
what I could have got by aiming for the
extraordinary in an ordinary world. It is
indeed tortuous and painful. The only thing I
can do is lean into it, get out of the way so
the Universe can bring me what I need, even if
it is not any of what I want. I've always been
floating about in the clouds, sensing inner
power yet unable to manifest it. Now I feel
grounded to the earth, deeply fallible and
vulnerable, without the faintest clue how or
even where to start, wondering how in the world
I'm going to forgive myself for being human, how
to make peace with a Universe which feels
terribly impersonal, what to say to my Soul, how
to stop feeling terribly foolish and victimized
and own it all as my own. I can only yield and
lean into this pain and let the rest unfold
according to a wisdom higher than my own.
If I get to have any children, yours is the book
I'll give to them. It has everything I'd want to
Thank you for writing it. It was not what I
wanted to hear but I'm listening anyway, because
it was meant for me.
All the best,
This insightful book
translates timeless truths, exposing the unworkable
beliefs that we often hold. And Ms. Alexander’s
provocative and rich chapter titles are well worth the
price of admission.”
James Wanless, Ph.D.,
author of Intuition @ Work, and Voyager Tarot
“The fifty-two chapters comprising Chandra Alexander's
Reality Works: Let It Happen provide brief but explicit
lessons on how to live with a grounding sense of wonder.
Suited to being the foundation of a weekly study
throughout the year, the issues covered range from
loneliness, relationships, and learning to leave things
along, to paying attention, and living a richer, more
authentic life regardless of circumstance or background.
Very highly recommended for self-help, self-improvement
reading lists and reference collections, Reality Works:
Let It Happen is witty, inspiring, motivating,
thoughtful, occasionally challenging, and thoroughly
midwest book review on amazon.com
“This is a book for people who want clear, gem-like
insights into the art of personal transformation. I
enjoyed the concise writing style and the direct appeal
to the reader's innate sense of wholeness. The author
speaks to the psychological as well as the spiritual
aspects of wholeness and the need to approach life with
attention to the mulit-leveled nature of every
individual. It is one of those books that you can open
anywhere and find something that brings wisdom to your
reader Review on Amazon.com
"I have to confess to being a bit of a self-help (books,
tapes, systems, seminars, etc.) junkie. Over the years,
this trait has (hopefully) given me some perspective on
the genre and some ability to separate the same tired
old cliches from the fresh and original. Reality Works
falls soundly in the latter category. At a compact 119
pages, every page is packed with sharp insights
expressed in a clear and concise manner. I would
especially recommend this book to anyone in the middle
of, or on the verge of a significant life transformation
(e.g. changing careers, starting/ending a relationship,
relocating...). Chandra Alexander is a strong advocate
of listening to your inner voice and having the courage
to follow it, especially at times when you may be
tempted to remain in a comfortable rut rather than
venture into uncharted regions. Of course, in an
important sense every day is a kind of transformation,
so the advice given here is always relevant. The title
of one chapter is a good example of the book's wisdom --
"The space between the old way not working and the new
way not yet found is where consciousness expands --stay
in the gap!" (yes, all this is really the chapter
title). In other words, don't be afraid of being in a
place where you aren't certain of everything. Reality
Works is filled with such gems. I've read it once and am
already looking forward to going through it again."
Lleu Christopher, Hudson Valley, New York
"'If You're Bored With Your Story It's Time To Change'.
The title of this review is the first chapter of a
reading adventure. An adventure that can inspire you to
live with greater clarity and aliveness. I buy a lot of
books. I read a bit here and a bit there in each book. I
see another book that looks great...the cycle repeats
itself. I'm looking for something. I want to read them
all. I'm too busy. I picked up this book, began to read
and didn't stop until I reached the end. I couldn't
believe I read the whole book in one sitting, even
though it has 52 delicious bite-size portions. I
continue to use it as an oracle. It's filled with
metaphors that reveal new meaning with each new
attention. Reality Works doesn't give a prescription. It
somehow serves as a catalyst to call forth the
experience that I'm looking for in all books. Buy it and
Eddie Oliver. Mill Valley, CA
DETROIT NEWS REVIEW - APRIL
'Reality Works' helps us deal with the scary times of
By Marney Rich Keenan / The Detroit News
One of my favorite magazine features is when famous
people tell what books are on their nightstand at any
If I like the person, I usually go and buy the book they
are reading, a practice my husband disdains by
insinuating that if Border's was ever threatened by a
major shareholder takeover, that would be me.
Yet, if I were ever asked what is on my nightstand, I
would be hard pressed to answer succinctly. That's
because what is on my nightstand is a potpourri of
subjects and genres, pleasures and personal obligations,
first, second and third reads, too.
A cursory glance at my stacks show: Anne Taylor
Fleming's "Marriage: A Duet" (Hyperion, 2003); "The Holy
Longing" by Connie Zweig, Ph.D. (Putnam, 2003); "The
Hours," Michael Cunningham (Farrar, Straus and Giroux,
1998); "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz (Amber
Allen, 1997); "Bush at War" by Bob Woodward (Simon
Schuster, 2003); "Blue Shoe" by Anne Lamott (Riverhead
Books, 2002); "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle (New
World Library, 1999); "A Return to Love," Marianne
Williamson (Harper Collins, 1992); "Lucky" by Alice
Sebold (Little, Brown and Co., 1999); and "John Adams"
by David McCullough (Simon and Schuster).
Pretty standard fare, but if I were to honestly answer I
would have to say, I'm reading all of them, but not any
one of them in particular. It's as if I have multiple
personalities and settle in at night with whomever has
inhabited me at the time: the history student, the soul
searcher, the writing student, or the escape artist.
These days, the book I pick up most often, and always
with a highlighter, is a little known self-help book
that helps me stay grounded. It's called "Reality Works:
Let it Happen" (Red Wheel, 2002) by Chandra Alexander.
It's a book I've bought three times over now for
friends, and thankfully, they don't accuse me of being a
sanctimonious proselytizer the way I do when I'm pushing
my religious titles.
The reason I like it so much is because it feels so
apropos to the times in which we now live: when
uncertainty reigns and fear seems such a collectively
shared emotion, it is almost pedestrian. "Reality Works"
is full of bare bones, straightforward, applicable life
lessons that help me put one foot in front of the other.
And sometimes, I really do need advice on, literally,
how to take the very next step.
Often, we're fond of saying "Get Real!" without giving
due credit to the profundity of the catchy phrase.
Because, as Alexander suggests, if we all really just
"got real," we'd be a heck of a lot happier.
"When something is real, it is clear and raw as it
gets," Alexander writes in the preface. "It is bottom
line, unequivocal and not up for debate. Peace is the
result of clarity, a rock solid feeling that is stark
and without embellishment. It often comes at the end of
an inner struggle, sometimes in the shower, sometimes
driving in stop-and-go traffic and always when we have
consciously stopped thinking about it. It is a place
where, if only for the moment, there are no more
questions, a place where we suddenly 'get it.' What is
real delivers peace."
Alexander is a therapist and motivational speaker who
studied in India for 10 years, living a monastic
lifestyle. When she returned to the states, she found
she had to get real: "I realized nobody was impressed
with my spiritual quest and that I was going to have to
make my way in the everyday world just like everyone
Alexander earned her master's in social work, traveled a
circuitous route to becoming a "life coach." She was a
director of an HMO, formed her own medical receivables
company, and even opened an art gallery.
Along the way, she compiled her varied life lessons into
this tiny 5-by-7-inch book containing 52 chapters that
are purposely brief (four or five paragraphs) and full
of to-the-point advice on dealing with life's stuff.
"Regardless of how clever we are, reality is," she
writes in the preface, "there is no way around it. We
can dress it up to appear more palpable but it is,
always and forever, human -- We have been so conditioned
to want only what is easy and initially makes us feel
good that we have neglected that part of life that is
difficult and makes us uncomfortable, but in the end has
the ability to connect us to our core and make us whole.
It's only through our humanness that we can know our
divinity and not the other way around."
Among the many chapters: "You Are Always In the Right
Place At The Right Time." "Taking Responsibility For
Your Life Means Not Fighting With Reality -- If It
Happened to You, It Belongs To You." "Trusting the
Bull---- Meter Always Gives Us the Edge." "Will Is About
Making Choices, Not Manipulating Outcomes." "When You
Are Confused, Do Nothing." "When People Are Not Meant To
Be Together Anymore, They're Not." "Once You Know Your
Own Stuff, It's Only Stuff."
One timely chapter centers on courage. In "I Am Not
Afraid Of Things That Scare Me," Alexander writes: "Fear
has a way of stopping us dead in our tracks. But what if
we changed the paradigm of fear? What if feeling the
feeling was actually different from reacting to it? To
move through fear and come out the other side requires
tremendous courage and power. But if we experience fear
as a vital insight into our head, we can see what we
need to work on, where we need to focus our attention.
Inherent in this feeling that frightens us is the
possibility of freedom. As long as we are able to exist
in a state of feeling that has no definitive answers, we
break the boundaries of a constrained life."
Right now, if I had to pin it down to a book, "Reality
Works" would be the one.
NAPRA Review: Books New and
Reality Works, Let it Happen, by Chandra Alexander
"Get real" is a popular saying, but what does it mean?
Why should we get real, when reality is often painful
and just plain not fun? Escapism, yes, even escape into
spiritual euphoria, is chosen far more often than
getting down and dirty to deal with reality. Besides,
even if we want to get real, just how does one go about
it? Well, read the 52 brief chapters in this provocative
and insightful book, and be on your way. The author is a
therapist and motivational speaker. Her writing is
vivid, persuasive, and to the point. She views reality -
our everyday challenges with the world outside and our
inner demons - as an adventure. The title, the binding,
the size, the format,the cover of Reality Works all
contribute to a book that will be picked up and perused.
The attention-grabbing prose will help find its way into
the shopping basket.
Reality Works, Let It Happen
by Chandra Alexander
"Taking responsibility for your life means not fighting
with reality - if it happened to you, it belongs to
you", says Chandra Alexander in Chapter 20 (actually, in
the chapter's title) of Reality Works a slim volume of
52 such chapters that gleefully debunk the grandiose
myths and labyrinthine psychobabble found in too much
self help literature. No chapter is more than three
pages long. Others of these quick hits: "Men and women
are different - enjoy it." and "When we try to quiet the
mind, we end up doing the opposite." Alexander wastes no
time or space making clear her bare-bones appraisals of
how to face life by accepting reality rather than
railing against it. She is not bitter or preachy; she is
simply sharing with reader's her straightforward way of
looking at - and living in - the world.
Alexander, MSW, is a Life coach and motivational speaker
who studied in India for ten years with Swami Muktananda.
She presents 52 brief lessons on being clear about
reality, about what is, and letting it happen, while
being deeply grounded in the present. Although she
allows that no one can tell us what something means, she
says when something is real it is unequivocal and
acceptance of it brings peace. "Peace is the result of
clarity, a rock solid feeling that is stark and without
embellishment of any kind." The lessons range from "When
you close one door, don't open another: stand
there...another door will open" to "You can want
something else without knowing what it is." Some of
Alexander's lessons are surprising, including
"Visualizing what we want, always cuts us short."
With its simple, declarative title and a brightly
colored cover depicting a person negotiating his way
through the cogs of a machine, this small
5.5-by-6.75-inch book will jump out at customers, and
its refreshing unencumbered messages will entice
browsers, Indeed, even a quick scan of the elaborate
chapter titles makes this book hard to put down.