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KnowBe4 is fully aware that our biggest assets are our employees. You have seen this in many other posts on this blog.
One of the things we found that other high tech companies have as a perk for employees is a service known as life coaching, so we thought we should provide that too! :-D
Now, to define the term: "Life coaching is the process of helping people identify and achieve personal goals. Although life coaches may have studied counseling psychology or related subjects, a life coach does not act as a therapist, counselor, or health care provider, and psychological intervention lies outside the scope of life coaching". (See Wikipedia)
We looked around for the best life coach in Tampa and found Chandra Alexander, who is known as Tampa's own "Dr. Phil" and was chosen by Oprah Magazine as the Life Coach to deliver 12 sessions to one of Oprah's grandprize winners.
After graduating from the University of Florida with an undergraduate degree in English and Education, Chandra received her MSW in Social Work from Barry University, with intensive training and experience in traditional psychotherapy and counseling.

Along the way, she developed top-notch business experience, spending years in upper management with an HMO, consulting for General Motor's healthcare division, and developing two start-up companies.

Chandra has a private practice in Tampa, FL, coaching clients from all over the world (in person, on the phone, and on Skype) in the areas of business, relationships, and consciousness. She has been doing this work for the last 30 years. She has traveled the world, spending ten years in India, studying and meditating with a spiritual master.

From April 2002 through November 2006, Chandra had a regular TV series on WFLA/NBC's DAYTIME called "Reality Check". She spent one year on Good Day Tampa Bay/FOX 13 TV with Russell Rhodes and another year on WFLA Channel 8�s Midday News with Gayle Guyardo.
Here is a link to Chandra's Blog - her LinkedIn page - this is her YouTube Channel and of course her website.
KnowBe4 provides a maximum of 12 sessions per employee for the first 12 months. After that it becomes self-pay. This benefit is available after you make it through your 90-day probation period.
We are initially thinking she will be in the office Tuesdays and Thursdays from 11 am to 4pm, that schedule may change though. Her first two days at KnowBe4 will be April 17 and 19.
To schedule a 45-50 minute session, call 813-348-9885. If it's busy, leave a VM and a phone number and she'll call back. You can also email from your personal email address.
Note: this is a new thing. We do not know exactly how popular this is going to be. Do not be surprised if your first scheduled session is 3 months off.
Warm regards,
Stu Sjouwerman
Founder and CEO, KnowBe4, Inc.


If you're in town, please join us!

CHANDRA ALEXANDER SPEAKS: The Real Deal: How to Be It, How to Get it!

Sunday, August 31, 2014,  9:30 a.m. and 11:30 a.m. service

First Unity Church, 460 46th Ave. North, St. Petersburg, FL 33703


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Past Events;
Seminars, Speaking Engagements, Book Signings and Radio/Magazine Interviews

What U R Seeking is Also Seeking U

First Unity Church, 460 46th Ave. North, St. Petersburg, FL 33703

Saturday, June 7 and Saturday, June 14, 11 a.m. to 1 p.m.

$15 a seminar, Pay and Register

Call 727-527-2222

Saturday, June 7, 2014 11 a.m.

Getting the Relationship You Really Want and Deserve

  • Attract a match for your energy.
  • Your attraction meter is your feelings.
  • Your inner voice apeaks to u thru your feelings.
  • Thought permeates all time and space.
  • Create healthy, loving relationships.

Saturday, June 14, 2014, 11-1PM

Breaking and Healing from A Dysfunctional Relationship

  • Recognize a dysfunctional relationship
  • Understand narcissism
  • Set healthy boundaries
  • Disengage from a narcissistic relationship
  • Heal from a dysfunctional relationship

If you're in town, please join us this Sunday!


Authenticity Equals Consciousness. Authenticity is the same as a deeply spiritual life. Create the life you want by not resisting "what is," connecting to your feelings, & truly being comfortable in your own skin.

Sunday, May 18, 2014 9:30 a.m. and 11:30 a.m. service

First Unity Church, 460 46th Ave. North, St. Petersburg, FL 33703 727-527-2222

What U R Seeking Is Also Seeking U

When:   Saturday, January 16, 2010

Time:     1PM � 3PM

Tickets: [Buy Now]  or call 813.348.9885    

Cost:       $25

Where:   3410 Henderson Ave., Suite 200, Tampa, FL 33609 

The law of attraction is based on physics and says that you will attract to you a match for your energy, or your vibration.  Your attraction meter is your feelings.  Your inner voice speaks to you through your feelings.  It says keep going when you are positive and your feelings are aligned with what you want - and when you are negative, and your feelings are not aligned with what you want, it says stop. 

It is only thought that PERMEATES all time and space.  Your thoughts create your feelings and your feelings set up an energy frequency that go out into the universe and finds a match for that frequency.  LEARN how to make sure you are getting what you really want and deserve!! 

Join this mini-seminar/discussion group.
Seating limited to 15!!!!  [Buy Now] 

All Chandra�s books and CDS 20% off at meet UP. 


How To Get Out Of A Narcissistic Relationship

Are you with a Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde? If you are stuck in an emotionally, mentally, verbally, or physically abusive relationship, have lost your self-respect and self-esteem, feel more and more isolated from friends and family, and have a �walking on eggs� relationship, you need to join this group.


The narcissist�s best weapon is his tongue. He never accepts blame for anything and never apologizes. He has a total lack of empathy. These relationships are �too good to be true� at the beginning but quickly disintegrate once he has captured you with his charm.
Learn how to recognize this abusive relationship, stop being a victim, and take your power back. Learn that you are not alone and that many people are fooled initially. Narcissists get worse over time, so do not think this relationship will get better. 

When:  Saturday, December 5, 2009, 1-3 PM 

Where: 3410 Henderson Ave, Suite 200, Tampa, Fl 33609 

Cost: $25 on-line or call 813.348.9885




Staying Real Teleseminar #1 - SOLD OUT
(Attend a telephone seminar in the comfort of your own home .)   


Welcome.  I wanted to create a place of community, a place where I could talk to all of you who have sent me emails and shared your thoughts and feelings.  Having a private practice is great, but I don�t get the opportunity to connect with a lot of you; I thought this would be an accessible and affordable place for an interchange and the chance to learn more about what you want to know. 


Although the topics will be different, the message is forever the same.  I am always concerned with �Staying Awake in a World That�s Sleeping�.  How do you stay conscious when often, initially, it�s a whole lot easier to go to sleep?  Why go for awareness?  What happens when you chose to stay awake and �feel� your life rather than think your way through it?


The prize of awareness is authenticity and the surprise is that it is the same as consciousness.  On Thursday, May 15th, 2008 at 8:30PM, join Chandra for a teleseminar on Authenticity Equals Consciousness and learn that (true) authenticity is the same as a deeply spiritual life.  Create the life you want by understanding that Being Real is the ONLY way to love, peace and happiness. Learn:

  • What U R Seeking is also Seeking U
  • How To Invite the Demons In and Not Run from Things That Scare You.
  • To Take Responsibility for All of Your Life�not just the parts you like.
  • Real Spirituality is the Same as Authenticity.

When: Thursday, May 15, 2008

What time:  8:30-9:30 PM EST 

Cost: FREE (Click here to get tickets) or call 813.348.9885


(Before the seminar, instructions for calling will be emailed to you, and you will also have the opportunity to send in your questions.)


Saturday Mini-Seminar Series
(25 participants max per seminar)

Enjoy the intimacy of a small group � ask questions � get answers � leave feeling empowered!  Listen to no nonsense, straight-up talk that hits the nail on the head!

Where:  2835 DeLeon St., Suite 204, Tampa, FL 33609   [get directions]

Cost:     $99 each or $350 Package (all four seminars)

Sat. Sept 8, 2007
, 1-3PM- Are You Living With A Narcissist and What You Can Do About It.  

At this Seminar you will learn to:

  • Recognize a narcissist

  • Understand �narcissistic supply�
  • Disengage from a narcissistic relationship
  • Deal with an Ex narcissist and a narcissist in court
  • Heal from a narcissistic relationship


Sat. Sept 29, 2007, 1-3PM - Authenticity - Being Real Is The Only Way To Have Real Relationships.   
At this Seminar you will learn to:

  • Take care of yourself and love another at the same time
  • Learn to �feel� as well as think, and feel �alive�
  • Feel genuine in your own skin and know you deserve the best
  • Stay in the present moment � rather than the past or future
  • Like your own company and know it is good company




Sat. Oct. 20, 2007, 1-3PM - Stop Telling Your Story or How To Stop Feeling Like A Victim.  

At this Seminar you will learn to:

  • Zip It � Stop repeating your story � spare yourself and your friends and family
  • Set boundaries that make you feel safe and give you self-respect
  • Take responsibility for ALL of your life, not just the parts you like
  • Change focus � feel gratitude for all the good stuff
  • Create a new life by what you think and feel




Sat., Nov. 17, 2007, 1-3PM - Keeping The Passion Alive and Other Ways to Stay Close, Intimate and Connected.  

At this Seminar you will learn to:

  • Understand the true nature of passion
  • Stay open rather than closed
  • Feel right (connected) rather than be right (not connected)
  • Honor chemistry, character and connection
  • Trust your instincts






BREAKING & HEALING - When Relationships Don�t Work

Saturday, March 18, 2006, 1-4PM 

Whether you are struggling with a partner, a parent, a child, a friend, a co-worker, a boss, an ex � We all have relationships that don�t work. This does not mean that there is something wrong with us, but rather that we are human; and part of this human experience is to figure out how to have healthy relationships - equitable interactions that give us self-respect and self-esteem. Seating is limited.
Attending this seminar, you will learn to:
� Recognize and change a dysfunctional relationship
� Set boundaries based on self-respect and self-esteem
� Break unhealthy patterns that keep you stuck
� Develop �limited� relationships with ex�s, parents, children, etc.
� Leave emotionally, verbally, and physically abusive relationships
� Heal, so that you can love again
� Create relationships that have equanimity

Date and Time: Saturday, March 18, 2006, 1-4PM

Price: Early registration-$100 before Feb.15, 2006. After Feb.16 - $125

Location: The Tampa Club, 101 East Kennedy Blvd. 41st Floor, Tampa, FL 33602. (813) 229.6028. When you purchase your ticket on-line, there will be a button below to click for directions to The Tampa Club. (This is really very easy to find � just follow the step-by-step directions.) 

Established more than two decades ago, the Tampa Club is distinguished as Tampa's premier private club. Perched atop Tampa�s landmark Bank of America building, you will enjoy an afternoon of insightful knowledge as well as breath-taking views.

What people are saying:

Chandra: I came away from hearing you speak enlightened, walking-on air, feeling good, if not better about life.
I find you somewhere between old memories and new hopes - a very savvy lady. For your guidance, many thanks. Regards always, S

I can't tell you how much I enjoyed listening to you and watching you at your workshop. You are sooooo gifted and the people are so blessed to have someone with your clarity, in Tampa Bay.
Michael Harris,photographer

Hi Chandra,

I absolutely loved the seminar as did the teacher that was able to attend. Your way of speaking makes each and every person feel like they are being spoken to individually. I 'felt' good after I left that I was able to 'feel'.
Thanks for allowing Joseph and I to have a part. He too commented on how important it was to learn these things early in life.

Thanks ! Avy Kenny, teacher and writer



Chemistry, Character, Connection�
How to Recognize a Real Relationship

Chandra Alexander from NBC�s Daytime �Reality Check�
The Tampa Club
Professional Women�s Luncheon
Friday, February 3, 2006
11:30AM � 1:00PM
Price $16.00

We all want real relationships, but in order to get �The Real Deal�, we must be the real deal. Join Chandra Alexander for an insightful look into what makes a strong, healthy relationship. You will leave knowing:

� The importance of chemistry
but why, by itself, it is never enough.
� How to step back and evaluate character;
and why it is important to LIKE the other person.
� What a true connection �feels� like.
� How to recognize and not repeat past mistakes.
�Remember openness is the key to loving. If you close your heart to hurt, you also close it to love.� - Chandra Alexander

Location: The Tampa Club, 101 East Kennedy Blvd. 41st Floor, Tampa, FL 33602. (813) 229.6028. When you purchase your ticket on-line, there will be a button below to click for directions to The Tampa Club. (This is really very easy to find � just follow the step-by-step directions.)   

Reservations, please call The Tampa Club (813) 229.6028  



September 17, 2005 - Join Chandra for a Saturday afternoon seminar "The Real Deal - How To Be It, How To Get It". Being Real is the only way to have "real" relationships. Spend an interactive afternoon... listening, asking, absorbing. Understand it differently, change what doesn't work, and get answers that point you in a new direction. Online tickets must be purchased by September 16, 2005. Seating is limited.

: 1:00pm to 4:00pm
Location: The Wyndham Hotel, Harbour Island, Tampa, FL
Price: $125 Online Purchase, $100 Online Purchase before July 15 / $150 at the door



Past Speaking Engagements, Book Signings and Radio/MagazineInterviews

June, 2007 - EWoman's Network - What U Are Seeking is also Seeking U 

March 2007 - Orient Road Jail Inmates - Stop Being A Victim - The Law of Attraction 

June 2006 - Board of Realtors - Good Corporate Policy - A Good Mind 

August 2006 - Upper Tampa Chamber - A Working Relationship With The Mind 

September 2006 - Hillsborough County Teacher�s - The Teacher/Student Relationship - The Relationship that Inspires 

July 2005 � SHAPES � Open Loving Relationships  [Click here for flyer]

July 2005 � Village Market � Feeding Heart and Soul 

July 2005 - BIZBASH - A Quiet Mind This insightful and riveting talk debunks commonly held beliefs that keep us stuck both personally and professionally and teaches planners new ways to look at the same old stuff.  Called "Tampa Bay's own Dr. Phil", Chandra Alexander MSW, shares with planners the same no nonsense reality she delivers on NBC's DAYTIME "Reality Check".  Integrating a strong business sense with spirituality and self-actualization, she revels how having a good working relationship with your mind is the foundation of all good business and all good relationships - the one you have with your co-worker, the one you have with your vendor, the one you have with your supplier, and most importantly, the one you have with yourself.  Attendees will have moments of enlightenment and leave feeling empowered.
[Click here for flyer]

 Chandra's radio interview with Virato on Virato Live, The Revolution, 880 AM out of Asheville, NC.

September 13, 2003 � 3rd Annual Black Tie Gala benefiting Ovarian Cancer research and awareness programs. Keynote Speaker. Marriott Waterside and Marina, Harbor Island, Tampa

September 10, 2003 � HealthSouth Rehab, Largo, FL � Speaker/MS Foundation, Talk to clients, staff and physicians

May 17, 2003 � Talk and Book Signing, Books a Million, New Port Richy, FL

March 25, 2003 � Interviewed by Susanne Solomon for New Tampa Style Magazine. �Could You Benefit From Having A Coach?�

March 18, 2003 � Guggino Family Eye Center, Tampa, FL. Talk and book signing

March 16, 2003 � Well-Heeled and Well-Dressed Women�s group � Talk and book signing, Tampa, FL

2002 & Prior

January 6, 2002 � Keynote Speaker � INATS (International New Age Trade Show), Orlando County Convention Center, Orlando, FL

January 30, 2002 � Interview with Jennifer Lee for the Tampa Tribune

February 1, 2002 � KTOX FM/1340 AM radio - 1 hour interview �Lonnie and Friends�

February 2, 2002 � WBAI 99.5FM radio � Gary Null�s �Natural Living�, 12-1PM. Invited back for a 2 hour interview/program syndicated nationally

February 11, 2002 � Speaking/Healing Arts Alliance, Border�s Books Store, South Dale Mabry store, Tampa, FL � Talk and book signing

February 14, 2002 � Women of Tampa, Talk and book signing, 1240 Stall Rd., Tampa, FL

February 15, 2002 - Tampa Club, Professional Women's Luncheon

February 17, 2002 � Guest Speaker/Sunday morning service, Harmony Metaphysical Life Center

February 27, 2002 - "The Hawk Health Hour" 1520 AM radio - simultaneously cast on the web at

February 28, 2002 - Hillsboro County Dept. of Children's Services Tampa, FL. Talk and Book signing to Senior Administrative Staff

March 3, 2002 - "Love Grows If You're Not In A Coma" - Chandra talks and debunks relationship myths at Harmony Spiritual Life Center

March 5, 2002 - Soiree at Dianne Curry's house/Talk and Book Signing

March 8, 2002 � Talk and Book Signing, Barnes and Noble, St. Pete, FL

March 14, 2002 - Inkwood Books, Tampa,FL/Talk and Book signing

March 20, 2002 - "Sound Off Central Wisconsin" with Pat Snyder -
Talk Radio WSAU, Wasau, WA. Discussion on "How good is your BS meter?"
and other questions from Reality Works.

March 22, 2002 - University of South Florida, Tampa, FL
Talk to 650 students - "Love Grows If You're Not In A Coma"

March 22, 2002 - Barnes & Noble, Brandon, FL � Talk & book signing

March 23, 2002 - Arts and Spirituality Fair, Tampa Bay Performing Arts Center, Tampa, FL. Meet the Author and Book Signing

March 24, 2002 - Arts & Spirituality Show w/Harmony Metaphysical Church, book signing, meet the author. Tampa Performing Arts Center, Tampa, FL

March 30, 2002 - Nature's Harvest, Tampa, FL, Talk & Book signing

April 2, 2002 - Tampa Bay Research Institute, St. Pete, FL (TBRI is a non-profit research facility dedicated to the study, cure and prevention of chronic disease/) Talk and Book Signing

April 4, 2002 � Hillsborough County Community College, Talk to students � �Why Reality Works!� Book signing

April 6, 2002 - Walden Books, Westshore Plaza, Tampa, FL. Book Signing

April 13, 2002 - Walden Books, International Plaza, Tampa, FL. Book Signing

April 13, 2002 � 7:15 PM/WKNE radio/Keane, NH. Interviewed by Robin Jay for �Late n Live�.

April 19, 2002 - Barnes & Noble, Clearwater, FL. Author talk and book signing

April 23, 2002. Bay Area Women Professionals, Talk & Book Signing
11:30 - 1PM, Prezzo Restaurant, Tampa, FL

April 27, 2002 - Walden Books, Citrus Park Mall, Tampa, FL. Book Signing

May 4, 2002 - Walden Books, University Mall. Book Signing

May 18, 2002 - Barnes & Noble, Carrollwood, Tampa, FL. Author talk/Book signing

June 1, 2002 � Keynote speaker, Eve�s Retreat, grand opening. St. Pete, FL � book signing

June 6, 2002 - Barnes and Noble, Sarasota, FL 7PM - Author talk & book signing - Art of Being real - for those who want their spirituality "straight-up".

June 19, 2002 � Interviewed for article on Life Coaching by Chatelaine Magazine (equivalent to Vogue in US), Montreal, Canada.

June 22, 2002 - Eve's Retreat. "Love Grows If You're Not In A Coma" - Debunking Relationship Myths.

June 24, 2002 � Girl�s Book Club/Reality Works, Tampa, FL

July 29, 2002 � WMNF Talk Radio � Interviewed by Carol Roberts, MD/Questions and Answers, The Ways to Authenticity

July 31, 2002 - KUCI radio/Awareness Talk Radio w/ Rain Morgan. Simultaneously on the internet at

August 2, 2002 � WABJ Radio, Adrian, MT � �Reality Works� - Interviewed by John Sebastion

Sept. 3, 2002 � Tampa Clergy Association. Talk & Book signing

September 9, 2002 - Healing Arts Alliance, Border's Bookstore, South Dale Mabry store, Tampa, FL. Author talk - for those "who want their spirituality straight-up"!

September 18, 2002 � Interviewed by Joel Chudnow, Hawke Health Radio, 1520 AM/Tampa, FL

October 12, 2002 � Honeywell Corporation. Keynote speaker for annual corporate women�s meeting, book signing








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The information contained within Coaching for Authenticity, Inc website or within coaching sessions, classes, or workshops, is not a substitute for professional advice such as from a Medical Doctor, Psychiatrist, counselor or therapist of any kind. The information provided by Coaching for Authenticity, Inc and Chandra Alexander does not constitute legal or medical professional advice nor is it intended to constitute such advice.
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