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Relationship Therapy On Demand    Ebook- Price: $9.99 Buy Now    Soft cover  $14.95  Buy Now


Relationship Therapy On Demand  is like having a therapist on call. Open to any page and you will be snapped back to reality. By giving women the courage to love themselves first, this pocket handbook reminds us once again what we already know: Every man knows what to do - it�s just whether or not he thinks he needs to do it with you. By delivering a one-two punch, this book wakes you up � you learn how to take care of yourself AND stay open to love. Women will buy this book for one another and men will secretly buy it for themselves. A woman�s book every man should read!

Ask yourself: Are you making excuses for what doesn�t feel good? If so, Relationship Therapy On Demand is for you.

� Sex is not important. We have other things going for us.

� Being with someone is better than being alone.

� I�ll move out as soon as I have enough money.

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Reality Works, (Let It Happen)     $16.99 Buy Now         Also available as an EBook (downloadable PDF file) $9.95


Reality Works, (Let It Happen)  is for the savvy seeker, neophyte, and all those in-between. Chapter titles such as It is our fear that creates our bravery, The universe works if you get out of the way, and Being human is the key to knowing your divinity, all propose new ways to look at the same old stuff, with a twist. Spiritual myths are �de-bunked� as complicated concepts are stripped to the bare essentials with clarity, freshness and reverence. Fifty-two chapters in all�brief and explicit lessons on living truthfully with a grounded sense of wonder.

Reality Works is for readers who want their spirituality straight-up, without the anecodotes and endless explanations. Combining eastern wisdom with a hip, contemporary, very American point of view, it makes readers laugh out loud, see life with a fresh perspective, sit in the middle of the floor and welcome their demons-basically learn how to feel a range of feelings by first facing the monster of fear and loneliness.

"We have been so conditioned to want only what is easy and initially makes us feel good that we have neglected the soft underbelly, that part of life that is difficult and makes us uncomfortable, but in the end has the ability to connect us to what is real," writes Alexander in the Introduction.

Fifty-two chapters (one for every week in the year) provide brief but explicit lessons on how to live with a grounding sense of wonder. Chapters include "When You Are Confused, Do Nothing," "Love Grows if You're not in a Coma," "I am not Afraid of Things That Scare Me," and "Men and Women are Different-Enjoy it." From loneliness to relationships, from learning to leave things alone to learning to pay attention, Reality Works offers fifty-two ways to live a richer, more authentic life. A gem of a book that can be picked up again and again, each time meeting the reader in exactly the right place.


Read the first (3) chapters

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Epiphany!   Power Statements That Change Your Life.   Epiphany! soft cover - $19.95   Buy Now
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The great thing about epiphanies is that they are totally unsolicited; they come about when you least expect them.  You are not on a quest, not searching tirelessly for answers, but merely minding your own business, not anticipating any change, and along comes a mind-blowing insight that has the potential to rock your world. What you do with that information is what creates your life!  

�What you set up at the beginning is what you have at the end.� 

�You have only one heart; if you close it to hurt, you also close it to love.� 

Power statements bring epiphanies that have the power to transform your consciousness.  

I'm not impressed by too many people Chandra. Your insights and concise way of putting things is brilliant and helps so many.  I think most of what you say is worth memorizing, like a proverb. You have a gift that can keep people centered in a challenging world.�    -Marty 

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Breaking and Healing -3 DISC CD  $74.99 Buy Now     or purchase the Mp3 file for download for $39.99  Buy Now
(Breaking and Healing is for everyone, because everyone has relationship issues - it's just whether or not we face them.)



If you feel badly in your relationship most of the time but rationalize and tell yourself "A lot of couples have it worse than we do", you are in a dysfunctional relationship. Whether you are struggling with a partner, a parent, a child, a friend, a co-worker, a boss, an ex - We all have relationships that don't work. This does not mean that there is something wrong with us, but rather that we are human; and part of this human experience is to figure out how to have healthy relationships - equitable interactions that give us self- respect and self-esteem. Breaking and Healing is for everyone, because everyone has relationship issues - it's just whether or not we face them. When you don't face your issues, you feel worse and worse as each day goes by. Learn how to stop this forward momentum and immediately start feeling better. 

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The Real Deal-
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The Real Deal is an opportunity to uncover the misconceptions and rationalizations; a way to take back your power and know that you can create the life you want. Love is not something that happens to us � we make it happen! Only when you are �intimate� with yourself can you share that intimacy with another. If you want passion, you must be passion; if you want love, you must be love.

Sit back, listen and open. Understand it differently, change what doesn�t work, and get answers that point you in a new direction. Remember love is an introspective process and unless you are willing to journey inward, you can never connect to the core of who you really are. Being real is only way to have real relationships.

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A Working Relationship with the Mind -(download)   $15.99  Buy Now (You will be able to download once you purchase)

This insightful and riveting talk debunks commonly held beliefs that keep us stuck both personally and professionally and teaches us new ways to look at the same old stuff. Called "Tampa Bay's own Dr. Phil", Chandra shares with corporate event planners the same no nonsense reality she delivers on NBC's DAYTIME "Reality Check".
Integrating a strong business sense with spirituality and self-actualization, she reveals how having a good working relationship with your mind is the foundation of all good business and all good relationships - the one you have with your co-worker, the one you have with your boss, the one you have with your partner, and most importantly, the one you have with yourself. Listening to Chandra speak, you will have moments of enlightenment and feel empowered.

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Reader Reviews

Hi Chandra,
I read your book. I thought I would do so in one sitting but I needed to digest what I was reading so it took longer. I've read many books on spiritual living and consciousness. I'd always prided myself on my journey and the 6 years I have invested in spirituality. I've read books which left me euphoric, soaring for days feeling utterly invincible. It's like drug addiction, you get a hit until you have to come down and you go searching for the next one. 
Your book was the opposite. Even as I read it, I was not surprised by the simplicity of it, that you could distill the essence of a simple truth into a tiny little chapter. I had moments of insight which left me joyous, but for the most part, reading your book has brought me down to earth with a bang. I'm undone at the seams, as though everything I thought I knew, the insights I had arrived at were no more. The Chapter, "When we are vulnerable, we are protected" destroyed me. I saw that I had expected my spirituality to make me special. That the isolation of the last 6 years, the celibacy, the getting left behind by my peers would result in one grand result which would be my reward for going within so long. The realization that this belief may in fact have isolated me from the rest of humanity floored me. I feel grounded, and not necessarily in a euphoric way. Just grounded, all over the place, confused, scared. For perhaps the first time, I'm faced with my own humanity and it's very sobering. I used to pride myself on my gut instinct which gave me the feeling that I was extraordinary in some way. I felt it since my childhood and it drove me to aim for an extraordinary life which, in spite of my best efforts, has not materialized.
I find myself in the gap. I still desire the career (acting) and the extraordinary relationship (single, 34 years old) but I no longer know what will become of these dreams. I'm terrified that I have isolated myself from what I could have got by aiming for the extraordinary in an ordinary world.  It is indeed tortuous and painful. The only thing I can do is lean into it, get out of the way so the Universe can bring me what I need, even if it is not any of what I want. I've always been floating about in the clouds, sensing inner power yet unable to manifest it. Now I feel grounded to the earth, deeply fallible and vulnerable, without the faintest clue how or even where to start, wondering how in the world I'm going to forgive myself for being human, how to make peace with a Universe which feels terribly impersonal, what to say to my Soul, how to stop feeling terribly foolish and victimized and own it all as my own. I can only yield and lean into this pain and let the rest unfold according to a wisdom higher than my own.
If I get to have any children, yours is the book I'll give to them. It has everything I'd want to teach them.
Thank you for writing it. It was not what I wanted to hear but I'm listening anyway, because it was meant for me. 

All the best,

This insightful book translates timeless truths, exposing the unworkable beliefs that we often hold. And Ms. Alexander�s provocative and rich chapter titles are well worth the price of admission.�

James Wanless, Ph.D.,
author of Intuition @ Work, and Voyager Tarot

�The fifty-two chapters comprising Chandra Alexander's Reality Works: Let It Happen provide brief but explicit lessons on how to live with a grounding sense of wonder. Suited to being the foundation of a weekly study throughout the year, the issues covered range from loneliness, relationships, and learning to leave things along, to paying attention, and living a richer, more authentic life regardless of circumstance or background. Very highly recommended for self-help, self-improvement reading lists and reference collections, Reality Works: Let It Happen is witty, inspiring, motivating, thoughtful, occasionally challenging, and thoroughly reader friendly.�

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�This is a book for people who want clear, gem-like insights into the art of personal transformation. I enjoyed the concise writing style and the direct appeal to the reader's innate sense of wholeness. The author speaks to the psychological as well as the spiritual aspects of wholeness and the need to approach life with attention to the mulit-leveled nature of every individual. It is one of those books that you can open anywhere and find something that brings wisdom to your present situation.�

reader Review on

"I have to confess to being a bit of a self-help (books, tapes, systems, seminars, etc.) junkie. Over the years, this trait has (hopefully) given me some perspective on the genre and some ability to separate the same tired old cliches from the fresh and original. Reality Works falls soundly in the latter category. At a compact 119 pages, every page is packed with sharp insights expressed in a clear and concise manner. I would especially recommend this book to anyone in the middle of, or on the verge of a significant life transformation (e.g. changing careers, starting/ending a relationship, relocating...). Chandra Alexander is a strong advocate of listening to your inner voice and having the courage to follow it, especially at times when you may be tempted to remain in a comfortable rut rather than venture into uncharted regions. Of course, in an important sense every day is a kind of transformation, so the advice given here is always relevant. The title of one chapter is a good example of the book's wisdom -- "The space between the old way not working and the new way not yet found is where consciousness expands --stay in the gap!" (yes, all this is really the chapter title). In other words, don't be afraid of being in a place where you aren't certain of everything. Reality Works is filled with such gems. I've read it once and am already looking forward to going through it again."

Lleu Christopher, Hudson Valley, New York Reviewer

"'If You're Bored With Your Story It's Time To Change'. The title of this review is the first chapter of a reading adventure. An adventure that can inspire you to live with greater clarity and aliveness. I buy a lot of books. I read a bit here and a bit there in each book. I see another book that looks great...the cycle repeats itself. I'm looking for something. I want to read them all. I'm too busy. I picked up this book, began to read and didn't stop until I reached the end. I couldn't believe I read the whole book in one sitting, even though it has 52 delicious bite-size portions. I continue to use it as an oracle. It's filled with metaphors that reveal new meaning with each new attention. Reality Works doesn't give a prescription. It somehow serves as a catalyst to call forth the experience that I'm looking for in all books. Buy it and read it!"

Eddie Oliver. Mill Valley, CA Reviewer


Press Reviews

'Reality Works' helps us deal with the scary times of today

By Marney Rich Keenan / The Detroit News

One of my favorite magazine features is when famous people tell what books are on their nightstand at any given time.

If I like the person, I usually go and buy the book they are reading, a practice my husband disdains by insinuating that if Border's was ever threatened by a major shareholder takeover, that would be me.
Yet, if I were ever asked what is on my nightstand, I would be hard pressed to answer succinctly. That's because what is on my nightstand is a potpourri of subjects and genres, pleasures and personal obligations, first, second and third reads, too.

A cursory glance at my stacks show: Anne Taylor Fleming's "Marriage: A Duet" (Hyperion, 2003); "The Holy Longing" by Connie Zweig, Ph.D. (Putnam, 2003); "The Hours," Michael Cunningham (Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 1998); "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz (Amber Allen, 1997); "Bush at War" by Bob Woodward (Simon Schuster, 2003); "Blue Shoe" by Anne Lamott (Riverhead Books, 2002); "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle (New World Library, 1999); "A Return to Love," Marianne Williamson (Harper Collins, 1992); "Lucky" by Alice Sebold (Little, Brown and Co., 1999); and "John Adams" by David McCullough (Simon and Schuster).

Pretty standard fare, but if I were to honestly answer I would have to say, I'm reading all of them, but not any one of them in particular. It's as if I have multiple personalities and settle in at night with whomever has inhabited me at the time: the history student, the soul searcher, the writing student, or the escape artist.

These days, the book I pick up most often, and always with a highlighter, is a little known self-help book that helps me stay grounded. It's called "Reality Works: Let it Happen" (Red Wheel, 2002) by Chandra Alexander. It's a book I've bought three times over now for friends, and thankfully, they don't accuse me of being a sanctimonious proselytizer the way I do when I'm pushing my religious titles.

The reason I like it so much is because it feels so apropos to the times in which we now live: when uncertainty reigns and fear seems such a collectively shared emotion, it is almost pedestrian. "Reality Works" is full of bare bones, straightforward, applicable life lessons that help me put one foot in front of the other. And sometimes, I really do need advice on, literally, how to take the very next step.

Often, we're fond of saying "Get Real!" without giving due credit to the profundity of the catchy phrase. Because, as Alexander suggests, if we all really just "got real," we'd be a heck of a lot happier.

"When something is real, it is clear and raw as it gets," Alexander writes in the preface. "It is bottom line, unequivocal and not up for debate. Peace is the result of clarity, a rock solid feeling that is stark and without embellishment. It often comes at the end of an inner struggle, sometimes in the shower, sometimes driving in stop-and-go traffic and always when we have consciously stopped thinking about it. It is a place where, if only for the moment, there are no more questions, a place where we suddenly 'get it.' What is real delivers peace."

Alexander is a therapist and motivational speaker who studied in India for 10 years, living a monastic lifestyle. When she returned to the states, she found she had to get real: "I realized nobody was impressed with my spiritual quest and that I was going to have to make my way in the everyday world just like everyone else."

Alexander earned her master's in social work, traveled a circuitous route to becoming a "life coach." She was a director of an HMO, formed her own medical receivables company, and even opened an art gallery.

Along the way, she compiled her varied life lessons into this tiny 5-by-7-inch book containing 52 chapters that are purposely brief (four or five paragraphs) and full of to-the-point advice on dealing with life's stuff.

"Regardless of how clever we are, reality is," she writes in the preface, "there is no way around it. We can dress it up to appear more palpable but it is, always and forever, human -- We have been so conditioned to want only what is easy and initially makes us feel good that we have neglected that part of life that is difficult and makes us uncomfortable, but in the end has the ability to connect us to our core and make us whole. It's only through our humanness that we can know our divinity and not the other way around."

Among the many chapters: "You Are Always In the Right Place At The Right Time." "Taking Responsibility For Your Life Means Not Fighting With Reality -- If It Happened to You, It Belongs To You." "Trusting the Bull---- Meter Always Gives Us the Edge." "Will Is About Making Choices, Not Manipulating Outcomes." "When You Are Confused, Do Nothing." "When People Are Not Meant To Be Together Anymore, They're Not." "Once You Know Your Own Stuff, It's Only Stuff."

One timely chapter centers on courage. In "I Am Not Afraid Of Things That Scare Me," Alexander writes: "Fear has a way of stopping us dead in our tracks. But what if we changed the paradigm of fear? What if feeling the feeling was actually different from reacting to it? To move through fear and come out the other side requires tremendous courage and power. But if we experience fear as a vital insight into our head, we can see what we need to work on, where we need to focus our attention. Inherent in this feeling that frightens us is the possibility of freedom. As long as we are able to exist in a state of feeling that has no definitive answers, we break the boundaries of a constrained life."

Right now, if I had to pin it down to a book, "Reality Works" would be the one.

NAPRA Review: Books New and Noteworthy   May/June 2002
Reality Works, Let it Happen, by Chandra Alexander

"Get real" is a popular saying, but what does it mean? Why should we get real, when reality is often painful and just plain not fun? Escapism, yes, even escape into spiritual euphoria, is chosen far more often than getting down and dirty to deal with reality. Besides, even if we want to get real, just how does one go about it? Well, read the 52 brief chapters in this provocative and insightful book, and be on your way. The author is a therapist and motivational speaker. Her writing is vivid, persuasive, and to the point. She views reality - our everyday challenges with the world outside and our inner demons - as an adventure. The title, the binding, the size, the format,the cover of Reality Works all contribute to a book that will be picked up and perused. The attention-grabbing prose will help find its way into the shopping basket.


Bob Schurtz   May 2002
Downtown Books
Harrisonburg, VA

Reality Works, Let It Happen
by Chandra Alexander

"Taking responsibility for your life means not fighting with reality - if it happened to you, it belongs to you", says Chandra Alexander in Chapter 20 (actually, in the chapter's title) of Reality Works a slim volume of 52 such chapters that gleefully debunk the grandiose myths and labyrinthine psychobabble found in too much self help literature. No chapter is more than three pages long. Others of these quick hits: "Men and women are different - enjoy it." and "When we try to quiet the mind, we end up doing the opposite." Alexander wastes no time or space making clear her bare-bones appraisals of how to face life by accepting reality rather than railing against it. She is not bitter or preachy; she is simply sharing with reader's her straightforward way of looking at - and living in - the world.

Alexander, MSW, is a Life coach and motivational speaker who studied in India for ten years with Swami Muktananda. She presents 52 brief lessons on being clear about reality, about what is, and letting it happen, while being deeply grounded in the present. Although she allows that no one can tell us what something means, she says when something is real it is unequivocal and acceptance of it brings peace. "Peace is the result of clarity, a rock solid feeling that is stark and without embellishment of any kind." The lessons range from "When you close one door, don't open another: stand there...another door will open" to "You can want something else without knowing what it is." Some of Alexander's lessons are surprising, including "Visualizing what we want, always cuts us short."

With its simple, declarative title and a brightly colored cover depicting a person negotiating his way through the cogs of a machine, this small 5.5-by-6.75-inch book will jump out at customers, and its refreshing unencumbered messages will entice browsers, Indeed, even a quick scan of the elaborate chapter titles makes this book hard to put down.







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